Giving Your Best

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; forgive them

anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior

motives; be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false

friends and some true enemies; succeed anyway. If you are honest and

frank, people may cheat; be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years

building, someone could destroy overnight; build anyway. If you find

serenity and happiness, people may be jealous; be happy anyway. The good

you do today, people often forget tomorrow; do good anyway. Give the world

the best you’ve got, and it may never be enough; give your best anyway. In

the end, it was between you and God, it was never between you and them

anyway.



--Kent M. Keith

Smile! Though Your Heart Is Aching

Love, for me, is the most wonderful word that has ever been "created" and loving is the best feeling... but it can also be the worst when love is lost... When that happens, we feel as though we're the loneliest person in the world with no one to turn to. Not even our family or best friends can help us deal with the pain of a break up. I have had my share of break ups and believe me, I experienced countless sleepless nights and not eating anything at all. But I always was able to "bounce back" and fall in love all over again. Of course I had to go through all the "stages" - denial, anger and acceptance. And what helped me go through all these stages, though absurd as it may seem, are "quotes". Yes, quotes that anybody can easily find in books, the internet, and even at the most incongruous place such as the comfort room.

Quotes, I have come to realize, help us to understand that we are not alone and that there are other people out there experiencing the same pain of a broken heart. And knowing that others have gone through the same fate and survived gives us solace and strength to keep it together... to just hang in there until the pain is over.

I know a break up is painful but please believe me in saying that "sometimes things just don't work out with someone because there is some other person out there who is destined to be with us; who will love us just the way we want to." I know that now because I am with that someone. My soulmate and true love, I'm certain that Dex is the person God has chosen for me because I've never been happier and more in love than I am now.

In line with this, I have listed 5 of the most inspiring break up quotes for you, which hopefully will make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.
The 5 most "inspiring" break up quotes to live by:

1. "If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours, if not it wasn't meant to be."
-Author Unknown

Relationships aren't all "roses". Most of the time, we experience some "bumps" along the way which makes us have second thoughts whether we have to fight for it or just let go. The "bumps" I'm referring to may be, feelings of insecurity for whatever reason; third party; uncertainty of your love's future, etc. Whatever the reason is, sometimes it helps to get "detached" from these negative things, to let go, in order for you to realize if you truly love the person. And if after the "break up/letting go" and you find yourselves back in each others arms, then your relationship is really meant to be.

2. "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
-Alfred Lord Tennyson

One of the oldest quotes I know and although it won't console you at the onset of the breakup, once you have overcome the pain and have understood its true meaning, only then will you recognize its value and profoundness. That it is better to have experienced love and pain so that the next time you fall in love with someone, you will appreciate and love that person more for he is willing to give you the love which you truly deserve.

3. "Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either."
-Golda Meir

Get angry, vent out, cry your heart out or do whatever it is you feel will help you "release" the pain that you are feeling. Go through all the negative aspects of a break up because once you have gone through them with your full consciousness, you will learn to appreciate and benefit from all the positive aspects of your future love.

4. "Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together."
-Author Unknown

One harsh reality of falling in love is that there is a risk of being hurt because problems do occur and you have to recognize if the relationship is still worth saving or not. Sad, but true. But in doing this, you lessen the risk of being hurt by the same old problem over and over again. Sometimes, the only solution to it is just letting go and moving on.

5. "You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again."
-Author Unknown

I have always believed that if you have been jaded in the past but haven't let go of the anger; haven't forgotten the pain; if you hold on to those feelings, then you can never really move on. "Emotional baggage" is something that can ruin your future relationships because you will always be doubtful if it will actually work out.

Some advice from someone who has experienced it all - me! Even though you are sad and feel like crying, don't ever let your Ex see you in this position. Smile and make him/her think that you're happy. In doing so, it would show your Ex that you're not being needy and most important of all; it will make them wonder if they have made the right decision of breaking up with you. How's that for exacting retribution? Also, constant smiling inspite of the pain is one great way of tricking your mind into thinking that you're happy. By smiling, our body sends signals to the brain that we are happy even though we're not and by constantly doing this, our mind will ultimately accept the state of the body. One last thing, always remember that pain and suffering are two very DIFFERENT things. Pain is something unavoidable. Whether we like it or not, we will FEEL it. But suffering is NOT. It is a choice. You can either choose to suffer by wallowing in pain for all eternity or you can choose to accept that it's over, cry a little then move on.



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I LOVE YOU... Say it in 100+ Different Ways

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and for sure everyone is thinking of ways on how  to show your loved one how much you love them. Most popular are chocolates androses; dining out or cooking for them; teddy bears or any stuffed animal which you know the love of your life wants; and of course greeting cards – whether it’s the “regular” card sealed lovingly in an envelope or the more “modern” e-card, for sure you’ll jot down what your heart wants to say – how much you love him/her. I LOVE YOU definitely is something that anybody would want to hear from you, but why not make it extra special by saying or writing it in another language?

To make your life easier, I have compiled several different ways of saying I LOVEYOU to your true love. Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day because I’m certain that I’ll have one with my one and only love whom I fondly call “MINE”…

<3 I LOVEYOU DEX <3

Most Popular:

Filipino – Mahal kita
Chinese(Mandarin) – Wo ai ni
English – I love you
French – Je t’aime
German – Ich liebe dich
Italian – Ti amo
Japanese – Daisuki / Ai shiteiru
Korean – Sarang-hae / Sarang-hamnida
Portuguese –Eu te amo
Spanish – Te quiero / Te amo

Other Languages:

AFRIKAANS –ek het jou lief / ek is lief vir jou
ALBANIAN – të dua
ALSATIAN – ich hab die lieb
Dialectal ARABIC (North African) – n’bghick
Dialectal ARABIC (Eastern) – bahebbak (to a man) / bahebbik (to a woman)
Literary ARABIC – ouhibbouka (to a man) / ouhibbouki (to a woman)
ARMENIAN – yes kez siroumem
ASTURIAN – quiérote
ATTIÉ – min bou la yé
AZERI – men seni sevirem
BAMBARA – né bi fè
BASQUE – maite zaitut
BAOULE – mi klôa
BELARUSIAN – Кахаю цябе (kahaju ciabie)
BENGALI –aami tomakey bhalo basi
BERBER – righ kem
BOBO – ma kia bé nà
BOSNIAN – volim te
BRETON – karout a ran ac’hanout / da garout a ran / me az kar
BULGARIAN – обичам те
BURMESE – nga nin ko chit te
CATALAN – t’estimo
CHEYENNE – ne’mehotatse
CHINESE – wo ai ni
CORSICAN – amu tè / ti tengu caru
CROATIAN – volim te
CZECH – miluji tě
DANISH – jeg elsker dig
DIOULA – mi fê
DUTCH – ik hou van jou
ESPERANTO – mi amas vin
ESTONIAN – ma armastan sind
FAROESE – eg elski teg
FINNISH – minä rakastan sinua
FILIPINO – mahal kita
FLEMISH (WESTERN) – ‘k zien je geeren
FRENCH – je t’aime
FRISIAN – ik hâld fan dy
FRIULAN – o ti vuei ben
GALICIAN – amo-te / ámote / quero-te / quérote
GEORGIAN – me shen mikvarkhar
GERMAN – ich liebe Dich
GREEK – s’agapo
GUARANÍ – rojhayhû
GUJARATI – hun tane prem karun chhun
HAITIAN CREOLE – mwen renmen’w / mouin rinmin’w
HAWAIAN – aloha wau iā ‘oe
HEBREW – ani ohev otakh (man to a woman)/ ani ohevet otkha (woman to man)
HINDI – main tumse pyar karta hoo
HMONG – kuv hlub koj
HUNGARIAN – szeretlek
ICELANDIC – ég elska þig
INDONESIAN – saya cinta padamu / saya cinta kamu
IRISH GAELIC – tá grá agam duit
ITALIAN – ti amo
JAPANESE – aishitemasu / aishiteru (barely used) / anata ga daisuki desu(“cute”)
KABYLIAN – hamlagh-kem (man to woman) / hamlaghk (woman to man)
KANNADA – naanu ninnanna pritisutteney
KHMER – bang srolaïgn ôn (man to woman) / ôn srolaïgn bang (woman to man)
KINYARWANDA – ndagukunda
KOREAN – saranghe
KURDISH – ez te hez dikim
LAO – khoi hak tchao lai
LATIN – te amo
LATVIAN – es tevi mīlu
LEBANESE – b’hibik (man to woman) / b’hibak (woman to man)
LIGURIAN – mi te amu
LINGALA – na lingi yo
LITHUANIAN – aš tave myliu
LOW SAXON – ik hou van ju
LUXEMBOURGEOIS – ech hun dech gäer
MACEDONIAN – te sakam
MALAGASY – tiako ianao / tia anao aho (stronger)
MALAY – aku cinta padamu
MALAYALAM – enikku ninné ishtamaanu
MALTESE – inħobbok
MANX – ta graih aym ort
MAORI – kei te aroha au i a koe
MARQUESAN – hinenao au ia oe
MONGOLIAN – Би чамд хайртай (bi chamd khairtai)
MORÉ – mam nong-a fo
NAPOLETANO – t’ammo
NDEBELE – niya ku tanda
NEPALI – ma timilai prem garchhu
NORWEGIAN – jeg elsker deg
OCCITAN – t’aimi
PAPIAMENTU – mi ta stima bo
PERSIAN – dustat dâram (formal) / duset dâram (informal)
POLISH – kocham cię
PORTUGUESE – amo-te / eu te amo (Brazilian Portuguese)
PUNJABI – mein tenu pyar karda han (male speaker) / mein tenu pyar kardi han(female speaker)
QUECHUA de CUZCO – munakuyki
RAPA NUI – hanga rahi au kia koe
ROMANI – kamaù tut
ROMANIAN – te iubesc
RUSSIAN – Я тебя люблю (ia tibia lioubliou)
SAMOAN – ou te alofa ia te oe
SANGO – mbi yé mô
SARDINIAN – deo t’amo (logudorese) / deu t’amu (campidanese)
SCOTTISH GAELIC – tha gaol agam ort / tha gaol agam oirbh
SERBIAN – volim te
SESOTHO – ke ya ho rata
SHIMAORE – ni su hu vendza
SHONA – ndinokuda
SINDHI – moon khay tu saan piyar aahay
SINHALA – mama oyata aadareyi (spoken) / mama obata aadareyi (formal)
SIOUX – wastewalake
SLOVAK – ľúbim ťa / milujem ťa
SLOVENIAN – ljubim te / rad te imam (male speaker) / rada te imam (femalespeaker)
SOBOTA – volim te / se te volime (lit.)
SOMALI – waan ku jecelahay
SONINKÉ – na moula
SPANISH – te amo / te quiero
SUSU – ira fan ma
SWAHILI – nakupenda
SWEDISH – jag älskar dig
TAGALOG – mahal kita
TAHITIAN – ua here vau ia oe
TAJIKI – jigarata bihrum duhtari hola (man to woman) / tra lav dorum (woman toman)
TAMIL – naan unnai kaadhalikkarn
TATAR – min sine yaratam
TELUGU – nenu ninnu premisthunnanu
TETUN – hau hadomi o
TIBETAN – na kirinla gaguidou
TURKISH – seni seviyorum
TURKMEN – seni söýärin
UDMURT – mon tone jaratiśko
UKRAINIAN – Я тебе кохаю (ia tebe kohaiu)
URDU – mein tumse mohabbat karta hoon (man to woman)/ main tumse mohabbat kartihoon (woman to man) / mujhe tum se pyar heh
UZBEK – men seni sevaman / men seni yahshi ko’raman (less formal)
VENETIAN – t’amo
VIETNAMESE – anh yêu em (man to woman)/ em yêu anh (woman to man)
WALOON – (orthographe à betchfessîs) dji vs voe voltî
WELSH – rydw i’n dy garu di
WEST INDIAN CREOLE – mwen enmen
WOLOF – nob nala
XHOSA – ndiyakuthanda
YIDDISH – ich hob dir lib
YORUBA – moni ife e
ZULU – ngiyakuthanda

ARE YOU BETTER OFF BEING SINGLE?

I have listened to endless whining and rationalizations of people trying to save their relationships. They are so blinded by false pride and their ideas of love that they can’t seem to see the big picture. When a relationship is over, don’t overlook the obvious signs if you are in pain and misery more times than you are happy. Helloooo! Get on with the program and dump him!

            It really irks me when I see a friend crying in pain over someone and it is so obvious that there is no future in the relationship and yet they hang on because they fear that they may find no one else. What is that all about? Why should you settle for someone who is a pain in the ass? Have you no self-esteem? Each one of us deserves the very best in life. Don’t settle for someone mediocre because you want a companion or because you’re lonely. If you want a constant companion go buy yourself a dog! But don’t settle for just anyone because in the end you will end up two unhappy people and that ultimately sucks. As I always say: If you want the pain, don’tcomplain! 

            Now tell me: Am I being idealisticin believing that being in love with someone or having someone love you shouldn’t make you cry and miserable about yourself? Love is supposed to be comfortable and easy. It should make you glow, not like you have been through hell. I just feel that anything worth it should feel good and not make you reach out for a Valium or a shot of Tequila. Not everything in love is smooth sailing, of course, but almost 90 percent of the time, things should be smooth sailing, not vice versa.

HOLD ON OR LET GO? Gising Kapatid (kapuso o kapamilya)! ;p

Minsan, iniisip mo na mag LET GO na… mag MOVE ON… Pero madalas, iniisip mo pa lang, nasasaktan ka na. Especially if you’ve sacrificed a lot which you know you’ve never done for someone else. Unfortunately, hindi niya nakita ‘yun. And more often than not, you’d wonder why…

If you ask me, maraming  puedeng dahilan diyan. Puedeng manhid lang siya or nagmamanhid-manhidan. Whichever it is, I deem you have to let go. Dahil ang taong totoong nagmamahal, naa-appreciate ang mga sacrifices na ‘yun. Pinapantayan kung hindi man nilalampasan…Puede ding kaya hindi importante sa kanya kung anong meron kayo, dahil you’re just an OPTION or worse, PANAKIP BUTAS! For him/her, you're just an option para kung may makita siyang mali sa relationship niyo o may makita siyang iba na sa tingin niya mas higit sa’yo, then madali ka lang iwanan. And if you let yourself believe that "OKAY LANG DAHIL MAHAL MO SIYA” don’t be such a fool! Why should you fight for the “one you love” when that person doesn’t even give the love back?! Sa tingin mo magiging masaya ka dun? Mahal mo nga at pinaglaban mo pero sinasaktan ka naman! Wake up ‘tol (goes for boys and girls kaya ‘tol na lang tawag ko sa’yo ha… ;D)! If a person truly loves you, he/she will make you his/her PRIORITY and NOT just an OPTION! You deserve nothing less!

Reality bites! Masakit, mahirap, parang sasabog ang dibdib mo dahil sa tingin mo hindi mo kaya.. Kaya short of  “ipagpatayo ka ng rebulto sa pagiging martyr”, you’ll forgive and accept your loveydude or loveydudette back and convince yourself that you’ll be loving him/her no matter what, come what may, for the rest of your life because that’s true love! Toink and ta’gush (pahiram ng special sound effects mo prettiness Princess Angela) ang dapat sa’yo para magising ka sa katotohanan. Bakit? Kasi you’re just bracing yourself for further heartache. Kasi nga, kung wala naman talagang feelings para sa’yo then the damn cycle will go on and on and on.. Palusot ng iba, pag mahal mo di ka magsasawa. Halleer!!! Magsawa ka nga sa sakit na binibigay niya! Think and think real hard. Ayaw mo ba mag-let go dahil sa tingin mo mababago mo sila? Posible naman ‘yan eh...

May mga tao talaga na mapapagbago ng unconditional love. May mga tao kasing kaya maingat sa pagbibigay ng pagmamahal nila, kasi nasaktan na noon at hindi na madali sa kanila na basta-basta magtiwala sa pagmamahal.Yan! Puede mo pang sabihin na mamahalin mo “no matter what, come what may…wish I was a bird, este, hanggat maniwala sila na may tao din palang totoong magmamahal sa kanila at hindi sila sasaktan”. Malalaman mo ang mga ganyang tao kapag may nakita kang pagbabago at nire-reciprocate nila ang pagmamahal mo…

PERO! Kung halos ibuhos mo na ang buong buhay (at kabuhayan!) mo para sa isang tao; ilang beses mo nang pinatawas, err, pinatawad pala, pero ganun pa din, aba eh, IBA NA ‘YAN! Wag na wag mong lolokohin ang sarili mo by saying that “mahal niya ako dahil andito pa din siya sa akin”. That’s not a basis! Pa’no kung kaya siya andyan sa tabi mo eh dahil alam niya na kahit anong katarantaduhan ang gawin niya eh patatawarin mo pa din siya dahil baliw ka sa pagmamahal sa kanya! Ka-selfishan to the Nth power na ‘yan ha! HINDI KA MAHAL NIYAN ‘TOL!  Ang MAHAL NIYA eh SARILI NIYA! Ang mabuti pa, bigyan mo na lang ng mirror dahil sa tingin ko matutuwa pa sa’yo ‘yun dahil alam niyang “you care enough to know na sarili pala niya talaga ang mahal niya”… ;p

Kidding aside, I’m not expecting you to accept everything I’m trying to say here… I just hope (and pray!) for you to REFLECT…And should you decide to let go, I’m not going to sugarcoat this…masasaktan ka talaga, that’s normal. Minahal mo ng sobra eh. So, sobra ka ring masasaktan. But at least diba, isang matinding sakit na lang ‘yan pero pagkatapos, wala na , tanggap mo na at magiging at peace and happy ka na. Kesa naman ‘yung kayo nga pero araw-araw ka naman nasasaktan dahil alam mong hindi ka mahal o hindi niya binibigay ang pagmamahal na hinahanap mo. Mas gugustuhin mo ba ‘yan?

Look, there is no perfect relationship. There will definitely be a lot of bumps in the road but keep in mind that a relationship should be good at least 80-90% of the time and not vice versa…I honestly believe that if it doesn’t work out with the person you’re with now and you guys break up, that only means that you’re destined to find the person who will hold your hand; who will want to grow old with you and who will love you the way you want to and deserve to be loved.

So, should you HOLD ON or LET GO?! =)

“’TIS THE SEASON TO BE MARRIED”

Every woman dreams of walking down the aisle and wearing the most beautiful gown she could ever imagine. Most girls have their dream dresses sketched out in their minds, but take care in choosing the right style and especially watch out for this season’s best wedding dresses. Select the gown which would best show off your best body features and let everyone watching be in awe of you on your special day.

SILHOUETTES
Having a fabulous figure is perfect for sexy, figure-hugging wedding gown silhouettes. You may have it made in different designs including strapless or the halter.

BALLGOWN
Be the belle of the ball with a fabulous ball gown which is back with a vengeance! Be a modern-day princess by being clad in a ball gown as long as it fits the theme. This type of gown is best if you want to hide a heavy bottom and give focus to a fabulous cleavage.

FIFTIES STYLE
If you’re one of the many lovers of the Fifties fashion, then be delighted in wearing a fifties style wedding gown since it made a comeback this season. Put glamour in your wedding by wearing a whole belted waist dress. Now, that’s glamour with a capital G!

MERMAID STYLE
Do an Audrey Hepburn in My Fair Lady by showing up in a mermaid styled gown. If you have an hour-glass shape and you want it accentuated, then this style is for you. Since this is extremely tight-fitting, it would be better for plus-sized women to avoid this type of gown.

TEA LENGTH
With a fifties influence, tea length wedding dresses are shining through this season. Best for a casual, less conventional wedding, pair this dress with a soft, loose hair style and some knock-out shoes.

GRECIAN INSPIRED
Bring out the inner goddess in you by sporting a Grecian inspired wedding dress. Being slim and petite is perfect for this type of gown since you will definitely look stunning with its high waist and floaty material.

FINE FEATHERS
If you loved Carrie’s “feathered” wedding hair piece in Sex and the City the Movie, then bring it up a notch by having the feathers in your g own instead. Be the bride of the moment as you look stylish and elegant in a wedding gown with peacock or ostrich feathers.

LOVE between DEX and BON

MINE (term of endearment between Dex and me) regularly calls us every break, every night when he's at work.. He especially makes sure to call before his "twinfoosh" (his term of endearment for our son, BON) goes to sleep so they can say their "I LOVE YOU's"...

Last night, at around 10:30pm, during his "lunch break", he called as usual but I'd like to share with everyone the conversation between the "twinfooshes" because I feel so happy and touched by the LOVE that was evident during their talk.

By the way, Dex is sick, but, the disciplined and workaholic person that he is, he still opted to work coz he said that he can still manage and he wants to save up for his son's future... Bon knows that his dada's sick...

Dada: "Hi baby, I miss you!"

Bon: "Dada, you need to come home now so you can get your medicine, drink water from my cup, eat your noodle & soup and rest so you'll feel better".

Dada: "Okay."

Bon: "I love you!"

Dada: "I love you, too!"

Bon then said to me: "Mama, dada needs to come home now so I can give him his medicine and water, and put ice pack on his forehead. I NEED TO TAKE CARE OF DADA, mama!"

I am so proud of my son for being the thoughtful, caring, and loving 4-year old that he is... 

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH DEX AND BON!